I probably never mentioned anything about Wonderboy and how he's doing in school. I guess it's a sensitive subject for me, similar to my sisters situation. You probably have no idea what I'm talking about...let me explain.
Wonderboy is not in the typical grade that he should be for his age of 8. Technically he should be in 2nd but he's not. He's in Special Ed, there I said it. Not that there's anything wrong with that. When asked in "public" what grade he is in, it's difficult for me to just admit he's in S.E. so I just say 2nd so I don't have to deal with the questions.
Most likely he will always need some sort of special assistance through out his schooling. Though I've heard and read nightmare stories of the public education system of Special Ed, I've always had 100% support and nothing but the best teachers and staff working with him. I do feel blessed and thankful for that.
Lucky for WB he is totally immersed with "normal" kids 90% of the time. This I think I'm very grateful for. He is a typical "normal" kid on the outside and in, he just lacks the socialization and comprehensive tendencies of most kids his age. Which being with the other SE kids all the time, I think would hinder him more.
Every year all of his teachers and hubs and I meet to discuss his future education plan. Every year they have high hopes of sending him off to 100% immersion with the intended grade. Every year his testing results indicate that he's again not ready yet. He probably never will be ready. It's a bitter-sweet pill to swallow.
I know I have to accept the fact that he probably won't ever be "normal". The hardest part is trying to explain to Gameboy why WB is different in that he doesn't go to "normal" school and doesn't have homework like he does. Why he doesn't even go to the same school as he does. Yet I've been in Gameboy's shoes. I understand his questions and feelings that his brother is treated "special" or thoughts that he's not quite like everyone else. I know these things because my sister was and is the same way.
The bitterness and hurt come about when thinking thoughts of having a "normal" relationship with a sibling. I sometimes think how unfair it is that I can't just call my sister on the phone and have a sisterly chat or even really do sisterly "normal" things. I then sometimes start thinking of GB and BB if thy will get to have "normal" brotherly conversations and do brotherly things together with WB. I have to reassure myself that yes, yes they will have as "normal" a brotherly relationship as they do now and hopefully in the future.
Besides, what's "normal" anyway?